When Grindr Gets Weird: A Memoir

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2.22.2017

6 Types of Conversations You'll Have on Grindr [NSFW]

It’s news to no one that finding someone attractive, sane and kind on a dating app is almost as hard as meeting the right person IRL. On Grindr, the world’s largest gay social networking app, users message each other with hopes of meeting the perfect someone for right now or—on occasion—forever. No promises, either way. With this app in particular, there seems to be an added layer of distance, which is why the conversations often go astray and inboxes tend to fill up with rude, unwarranted messages or dick pics. 

Last spring, Andrew Terenzi created a Facebook group that provided individuals with a forum to share their hookup app woes and successes. Dubbed Grindr Aesthetics, Terenzi’s online community, which is comprised of over 4,000 members across the globe, makes it easy for people to freely share stories of disturbing experiences they’ve had on the app. The group also acts as a makeshift therapy office and safe space for individuals who don’t have a community or friend to talk to about these awkward happenstances.

“It’s a place where you can vent that simply doesn’t exist in real life, especially in smaller, rural areas,” Terenzi told us over coffee. “There’s a million think pieces out there that claim millennials are the most disconnected generation because of the Internet…But if you’re a person who is already disconnected from society because of your queer or marginalized identity, you have more to gain from Internet spaces that have the power to connect you to others that are also overlooked by society.”

Peep these notable Grindr Aesthetics submissions that made us laugh uncontrollably, weep, and even question humanity. 

The Guy Who Can’t Get The Hint

If you’ve ever downloaded Grindr, you know this situation to be too real. This is one of the more prominent aesthetics seen on the app, undoubtedly. Sometimes no answer is an answer.

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The Hard Questions

Kink shaming is not cute; and it never will be. But being overtly direct with your desires isn’t always the best conversation starter. 

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The Fetishizing Tool

Quick answer: yes. Trans folk endure great amounts of festishization on hook up apps; at other times, a ton of transphobia. A simple yes would’ve sufficed. NEXT.

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The Unexpected Follow-Through

Gag! This is definitive high-fashion extravaganza. What else did he expect? There is no reason for this person to have not responded—a true visionary has emerged. Here is an aesthetic we all should strive to obtain.

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The Fake Girlfriend

In every town you pass through on Grindr, you’ll come across a “Hannah.” Usually, these accounts are managed by a Gay Best Friend (GBF) wannabe, but Hannah is different: she’s here for business. A worthy cause many older queers—like myself—would have utilized back in high school. Keep up the good work.

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The Smooth Talker

Deuces up to this suave player. A courageous move, poorly executed. And he thought he was being subtle. SMH.

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Images via Facebook

Stay tuned to Milk for more digital aesthetic #goals.

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