This Week In Women: Misogyny in Hollywood and Pakistan
As they say, another week, another opportunity to pass a bill that would make “light domestic abuse” legal. If you’re all, “Wait, what?”—don’t worry, it will all make complete nonsense in no time. So have a seat and crack open your favorite skin whitening mask. It’s this week in women: the beat me lightly edition! AKA, time to feel uncomfortable.
“Beat Me Lightly,” Said No Woman, Ever
Pakistan’s Council of Islamic Ideology proposed a bill to the Pakistani government suggesting that a man should be allowed to “lightly” beat his wife for things like refusing to dress properly, not washing or bathing after sex or menstruation, or not wanting to have sex. The bill would also prohibit female nurses from taking care of male patients, and ban women from attending receptions held for visiting foreign dignitaries. The proposed bill is apparently a response to a watershed women’s protection law passed by the Punjab government earlier this year, which makes it easier for victims of domestic violence to report abuse—the CII was opposed to the law, which has yet to be implemented.
Although the CII is not a governmental body and has no legislative authority, the fact that a bill like this was even proposed is outrageous. Unsurprisingly, Pakistani feminists are taking a stand against the CII and their recent bill. Photographer Fahhad Rajper responded by creating a series of 12 black and white portraits of Pakistani women titled Try Beating Me Lightly, and Pakistani women have begun to use the hashtag #TryBeatingMeLightly in opposition to the bill.
— Mona Eltahawy (@monaeltahawy) May 31, 2016
#TryBeatingMeLightly and you'll not be left with your hands to beat me ever again.
— عیشہ (@GarbarfiedBae) May 30, 2016
#TryBeatingMeLightly and I won't take it sitting down. If i go down, i'll take you down with me.
— Zoha Aamer Khan (@ZohaAamerKhan) May 31, 2016
Alicia Keys recently ditched her makeup bag along with everyone’s idea of perfect. Keys wrote a personal essay for Lenny Letter titled “Time to Uncover” about what it means to try to look perfect—a harsh reality that starts young for women. The primping, crimping, and plucking become ingrained in our daily lives. Keys questions whether the choice to look “perfect” is ours or society’s. And raises poignant questions, such as, at what point do we start dressing for another’s expectation of what a woman should look like rather than how we want to look for ourselves?
“Does it start somewhere in second grade after picture day when you wear your frizzy hair out ’cause your mama says it’s beautiful but all your “friends” laugh at you?” Keys wrote. “You grab the brush and gel and pull your beautiful big hair back into the tightest ponytail you possibly can to contain your unique hair in a bun — hiding a piece of who you are in order to fit into a picture of what others seem to see as perfection.”
“Time to Uncover,” which is applicable to all women, ends on a positive note, with Keys voicing her hope that the no makeup trend will stick and, eventually, become a revolution. “‘Cause I don’t want to cover up anymore. Not my face, not my mind, not my soul, not my thoughts, not my dreams, not my struggles, not my emotional growth. Nothing,” she wrote. The cover of her newest album will feature her makeup free—and, like her album, raw and real.
In support of Keys, her husband Swizz Beatz posted a makeup-less photo of her, and it’s pretty f*cking cute. And also makes us wonder: why hasn’t she done this sooner?
Amber Heard and Johnny Depp
Ever since Amber Heard filed for a domestic violence temporary restraining order against husband Johnny Depp, the two have been at the center of much Internet debate, discussion, and speculation. The hearsay abounds, and many have stepped in to offer their opinion on the matter—and, in doing so, have shed light on the fallacious arguments and assumptions that are at the root of how we, as a society, deal with domestic abuse and misogyny as a whole.
As many have noticed, people who have no place giving any opinion on this matter have flocked to social media to announce their support of Depp.
In response to Facebook posts and tweets posting articles on the topic, the public has had one of three responses: they either express sympathy for Heard and for our flawed judicial system, the belief that everyone should be innocent until proven guilty, or blindly rail against Heard and her apparent fabrications and lies to get as much money as she can from Depp.
@TheWrap I call bullshit. When a woman is abused they get out and don't go demanding all that she demands here. v skeptical of her motives.
— claudia (@claud91423) May 30, 2016
File for divorce 3 days after his mom dies & ask for spousal support after 15months of marriage? Youre a heartless gold digger #Amberheard
— Theresa Jeannette (@tiskertoo) May 26, 2016
And this, despite text messages, apparently between Heard and Depp’s assistant, Stephen Deuters, that were recently leaked.
Amber: “… Look, He think ‘he doesn’t deserve this’. Obviously he has no idea what he did or to the extent that he did it. If someone was truly honest with him about how bad it really was, he’d be appalled … I’m sad that he doesn’t have a better way to really know the severity of his actions yesterday. Unfortunately for me, I remember in full detail everything that happened.”
Stephen: “He was appalled. When I told him he kicked you, he cried. It was disgusting. And he knows it. … He’s a little lost boy. And needs all the help he can get. He is so very sorry, as he should be.”
Amber: “He’s done this many times before. Tokyo, the island, London (remember that?!), and I always stay. Always believe he’s going to get better … And then every 3 or so month [sic], I’m in the exact same position.”
As always, the Internet will believe what it wants to believe.
Images via Pakistani Tribune,
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